Be My Guest

Happy Wednesday to you!

I was asked to be a guest on another blog page today! I was so honored. I’m honored because this young lady is a young mom too. She is where I was at 21 years ago.

I’d like to share what I wrote with you.

First I’d like to start off by saying thank you Kayla for this opportunity to be a guest on your blog and share a little bit of my story. I’m really honored.

Hi there! My name is Christina. I’m a young mom to three amazing, awesome kids. Ok, one adult and two teens.  Now they weren’t always an adult and two teens. They started off as little wee babies.

Allow me to share a little bit of my story with you.

I’m a former teen mom.  At the fresh ripe age of 17, I gave birth to my son.  I had no idea what I was in for but I did know that I wanted to be the best mom I could ever be.  Life threw many challenges my way and by the grace of God I buckled up and held on tight. My son’s biological dad was not up for this challenge and chose, with my help, a different path of life. So here I was 17 years old with a child. As time went on, and many heartaches and challenges later, I met someone.

Long story short, we got together and at the wonderful age of 19, guess what??? Yup, I got pregnant again! In June of 1995, I gave birth to my second child. Oh, did I mention I got married too? Yes, I did. So here I was 19 years old with two children, a husband and a cat. Life was far from easy. We were on a roller coaster of crazy for a couple of years, trying to make things work. It was a hard life. I was very lonely and felt very sad. Although I felt so sad, I loved my kids. We had fun together. My two kids loved each other and we spent a lot of time together. If life was not challenging enough, guess what happened next? After my 21st birthday, I received a late birthday gift. Can you guess what it was? If you guessed another child, you are correct!

So here I was, 21 years old with three kids under the age of four. One magnificent boy and two beautiful girls.

Thinking back to my early days as a young mom, I can’t believe the things that we went through. I did a lot of growing up. A lot. As my kids grew, I grew. I changed. I embraced parenting.

Here are a few things that I did, and still do today, to help make me a better parent:

-          I chose to go with the flow of each day. By that I mean, if the dishes didn’t get done, they didn’t get done. If I had plans for the day and the day didn’t go with “my plans”, well so be it. I placed no expectation on the day. I went with where the kids were at and what they wanted to do (depending on what it was) haha.

-          TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!! Take a bath, do yoga, pray and meditate, exercise, whatever it is, BE SURE TO DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF IF NOT DAILY, WEEKLY!! I cannot stress this enough.

-          If you are with your partner, GO ON DATES! At least once a week or every two weeks, do something fun together, tell each other something good to one another daily. LOVE each other and HELP each other. HAPPY PARENTS ARE BETTER PARENTS ;)

-          PRAISE your child and say nice things about them. Especially when talking with other people. Your child needs to know you have their back and that they can count on you.

-          If you are a parent, BE A PARENT. Having a “single” life and being a parent is like an oxymoron to me.

-          Above all else, learn to love yourself and have FUN with your child. Laugh daily and hug often. Make choices that will better yourself and your family.

Parenting is a journey, it’s not a destination. Buckle up and enjoy the ride. You were chosen to have that child, YOU WERE CHOSEN. There’s a reason for it. Trust the process and learn to accept life on life’s terms with your child.

Today I am 38 years old. I am thriving and so are my kids. Two of my kids have graduated high school and are in University and college (I have an ear to ear grin as I type that). My son is actually going to be graduating from university this coming June. How’s that for teen mom statistics?? J My youngest daughter is finishing up high school. She’s got one more year to go. My relationships with each of my kids are amazing. Not only am I their mom, we are friends. I love them to bits! They saved my life. Today I can look back and thank God for this life He chose for me.

To all you parents out there, hang on through the tough times, they pass. Love yourself and be kind to you and your child, help each other out. Give each other a break. And here’s a very good question to ask yourself when the kids get “out of hand”, “Is this the hill I want to die on today?” Chances are it’s not. Hang on and take breaks when you need them. Live in the day you’re in. Forget tomorrow.

You are special. You are awesome. You are loved. Yup you are.

Please check out this awesome mommas blog at:

http://onelittlefootstepatatime.blogspot.ca/2014/02/controversial-parenting-topics.html?m=1

Have yourselves an incredible day!

Does Anyone Still Do It Anymore?

What a fantastic evening!

Wow.

Family dinner time. Yup, that’s what I’m talking about. Our family still does it. In fact, it is just a normal part of our daily routine.

Do you have family dinner times? Is it something that is part of the day?

Yes, yes some nights there’s one or two of us missing because of work or school schedules but for the most part, we meet up at dinner time. It’s a time to release and unwind. Some of our best laughs are done there and yup, some of our chaotic moments happen there too. But this is a time, out of all our busy schedules, where we can re-connect. Connection in family, especially with our kids is so important. Kids need to feel connection to feel “a part of”, feeling that “part of” needs to be family, if not they go out searching and looking for connection in the wrong places. For us, this is a pretty special family thing to do, and continue. If you don’t already do this, why not try it out? Make a commitment to have family dinner time every night this week together. Even if it’s just for dessert ;)

Tonight felt extra special for me for some reason. I felt God was there with us. Oh what a feeling. I had Christian music playing in the background all day today and over dinner I heard the kids humming and singing along to them. We had brief conversation about God and, oh goodness, it was such a sweet, gentle time tonight. I was overjoyed. Clean up was done with no issues of who was going to do what or when. The minutes flowed by with such grace and ease.

I cannot begin to explain how I feel. Our kids are older and all of us as a family are still able to connect and be together and enjoy our company. That my friends is the love of God. That is God in me. That is God in them. For all we have been through, for all the hard times, God has shown up and has made this family stronger than I could ever imagine. There’s true love here. Love that in years past, I was afraid to feel, afraid to receive. Now, there is an abundance of true love overflowing that I am willing and able to receive and take it in. And most importantly, GIVE out. That is God.

Ahhh, what a feeling. I’m glad we still do it ;)

As always, thank you for reading. :D

Are You Ready?

“Going to Church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than going to the garage makes you car.” — Laurence J. Peter

Let’s live it out. If you’re gonna talk the talk, put some steps behind it and walk the walk of Christianity. It’s not easy. It requires US to do the changing.

It’s starts with a decision and a commitment to be the change and to make the change, regardless of what others are doing or not doing. Let it go. Let go and get the focus on you. Turn the mirror inwards and take a good look at yourself.

It’s not for the faint of heart I’ll tell ya that ;) 

Are you ready? Are you willing?

Go for it. Life is too good to waste it on worrying on what you can’t change. You can change you. Start there and enjoy the journey. ;)

It’s One of Those Days, ahhh One of those…

Hello there blogging world, social media world, facebook world, whatever world you’re in :D

I just wanted to say, it’s one of those days. You know those days where you are feeling sooooo incredibly grateful???!!! Yes, one of those days!! :D

I am overflowing with gratitude and feel so so blessed. I am so grateful for my life, for my husband, for my kids, for my friends. So so so grateful! I just can’t stop saying, writing it!

I feel as if I’m bursting at the seams with joy.

Wow, what a difference life is when we DELIBERATELY make an attitude change. When we deliberately change our thinking. When we deliberately change how we perceive life, people and ourselves. Ahhhh, what a feeling. Treat life well and life is good to you. It all begins with us.

And that’s all I gotta say today. I will be on my way and enjoy this God given day.

Thank you to all of for reading. God bless ;)

I Got the Joy, Joy, Joy, Joy down in my Heart

Do you ever just have one of those days where you are reminded of the blessings around you? Those days where everything in your life seems just right? Those unexpected things that happen and things that get done without you even being a part of?

Yeah, today is one of those days for me. And I’ll be quite honest, I have many of these days. :)

I am reminded today how amazing my three kids are. I am reminded today that, how we are with our kids today, how we teach them, how we help them grow, how we nurture them, lasts a lifetime.

We had a busy day. We ran a few errands and did our groceries. We came home and left the groceries in the car while Rob and I ran out. When we came home, the groceries, (which for a family of five, plus two boyfriends, plus five cats, a dog and three fish, is quite a bit of groceries) were brought in from the car AND put away! All of it, put away and the fridge- cleaned out. My heart was overflowing in gratitude for the loving, kind, thoughtful hearts our kids have. I was also so thankful to God for giving them such a heart and for guiding me and Rob to teach them those good things. And for these kids to think to do as well. This is where the fruits of our labor shine through and today I’m feeling very blessed. Blessed that our kids who are 21, 18 and 16, call to let us know where they are, who they’re with, do household chores without being asked, respectful of curfew time and, my favorite; how they work their Sundays around for church and family time.

My suggestion to us parents, don’t wait for them to get to an age to start. It starts when they’re young, it starts now. Nurture, teach and above all, love. Love love love them. Teach with a patient and loving heart. Help them with their strengths and don’t expect them to “just know” to do things, make it clear, explain lovingly. And praise them. We can make our children bloom by how we care for them. Grow with them and learn together.

Today I am so grateful and I am receiving and taking in the blessings from God.

And now, it’s time for a hot cup of tea and I will indulge in some cookies ;)

Happy day to you and I thank you so very much for your time in reading my blog. Bless you always :)