Take It

I’m on holidays this week and I’m outside enjoying this hot summer weather although I just finished saying to my dog Oliver that I feel a chill. Go figure it’s just about 30 degrees Celsius and I feel a chill.
Anyway, I made my second cup of coffee and grabbed a new magazine I picked up from Wal Mart, actually I picked up three. You know they have the three magazines for ten bucks at the cash out? Yup gets me all the time. Well I’m sitting here and I’m in complete serenity and bliss. Why?
Because today I am able to take time for myself and enjoy it. Years ago I always thought myself unworthy to take time for myself and was brought up with the notion of that being selfish or a “bad” thing to do. Took some getting use to but let me tell ya, I surely enjoy it!
It makes me a better person and a better spouse a better parent and friend. We all need time to ourselves. That is one thing I really encourage mums I speak with to do, take a daily time out for yourself especially to you young mummies out there! We all need a refuel, a re-charge a time to connect with ourselves and God.
When we keep doing and doing and doing, we get frustrated and irritated and life becomes a burden and truthfully it’s our own fault. I was like that and I’ll be honest I can get into that tail spin of crazy at times and I need to stop. Like this beautiful morning I’m given. I’m out in my backyard with my coffee, magazine and my dog Oliver. The birds are happily singing and I’m taking in the blessing of being able to rest.
I challenge you to make a time each day just for you. Go on try it, it’s so beneficial for our health and serenity and out relationships :)

Happy day to you my beautiful friends <3

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It All Matters

Hey friends, wanted to pop in and say Hey and share this really awesome video my eldest daughter took and shared with me.

It got me thinking. Well I already knew but I reflected once again. Everything we teach our children, everything we say and do and how we respect ourselves, others and nature our children will learn from us.

It was really wonderful and warmed my heart that my daughter was able to stop and enjoy nature and record such a site and experience.

Hope you enjoy this short video and please take in the amazing sounds in the background.

Ciao for now :D

 

The First

Hello hello friends. It’s been awhile since I sat and blogged.  So much going on with the school year coming to an end.

With that said, I am soooo beyond thrilled to share some really exciting, serious news with you!!! Ok, so my son, whom I had in my teen years, is now 21 years old. He has just recently completed his last year of University and graduates this year.  How proud is this mom? Proud beyond belief!

If graduating from University was not enough, God decides to throw in Alex graduating with a high achievement record!

I’m going to post the letter he received from the Dean of the University (I asked permission to post ;)).

So here it is;

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Oh goodness me, I am so happy for him. This guy of mine has worked so hard. He kept his focus and stayed on track. What a victory.

This Friday will be the ceremony. It will take the Hand of God to keep me in my seat. When I hear his name I’m going to want to jump up and down and holler “woooohooooo, that’s my boy”!!! Hahahaha, could you imagine my son if Idid that? hahahaha. Mind you, he’d probably expect it. ;)

I will definitely post pictures and a possible video.

Well, gotta run. Ciao for now and God bless <3

Life Savers in Three Flavors

Well hello there! I pray all is well with you and you are having a fabulous day :D

I’m so excited to share my latest interview with you. This interview was done with such a wonderful young lady who works with an organization called Pregnancy Care Centre. This organization provides help, support, encouragement and spiritual guidance for young moms.

For all you moms out there check out; IAmNotAlone.ca for more info about this organization.

Here’s the interview, it’s a short two minute video. I hope you can take a peek ;)

Friends, I cannot thank you enough for all your support over the past while. God bless <3

Hold On!

“Blessed is the man who endures trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life which God has promised to those who love him.” James 1:12

AMEN!

Whatever you may be facing today, hang on!! God has got your back. When it seems so tough, hit the floor and pray pray pray!! Thanking Him for the courage and strength to get through each day. Each moment. Each minute. I’ve been there and I still go through heavy trials but rest assured, The Lord has it all under control and it IS for your benefit. Hang in there. <3

 

No One Asks For It. Ever!

Heeelllloooo to all my friends and followers!! Today is an important day for me. I get to flash my purple clothing and stand up and speak out against sexual assault!

I hope you all have found a snazzy purple something to wear ;)

I’ve been reflecting on my amazing journey over the years and I am brought to tears at the incredible life God has created for me. Out of such a disastrous mess He has turned it into a beautiful garden of love and forgiveness.

I’ve been feeling convicted this morning to make this blog about my two violators. My two cousins.

To the both of you. Today I reflect on the attacks from the both of you. In the past I never thought I would ever get over what your actions did to me. The trauma, the self hate, the anger, the rage and the poor value of life I had. The torment and horrible memories that haunted me everyday of my life. The loss of my childhood. Today I am here to tell you both what God has restored in my life. I have an amazing family! God has restored to me what your actions stole from me. God has taught me to love, real true love and most important He has given me a heart to forgive both of you. And as you both continue to hide and deny your actions I will continue to pray for you both and your wives and families. You know why? Because that is the kind of woman God has turned me into. I have been able to use what your actions did to me to help other people. I have chosen to take what you both did and use it to glorify what God can do. I have chosen to forgive you both so I may live a life of sheer happiness and FREEDOM. Something you two do not know. I can only hope that you both come to your knees and submit to God and repent of your actions. The incredible freedom and quality of life that comes from that is beyond amazing. I pray for your children. I pray none of them endure the horror of sexual abuse. May God help you because He is the only one who can. And if you ask Him, He will. You see, God loves you both just as much as He loves me and He is a forgiving and loving God. he knows EVERYTHING about us. He knows it all even if you try to continue to deny.

To my beautiful incredible supporters, God bless you in abundance! Thank you for journeying with me through all of this. Thank you for the hugs, love and support. Thank you for still being there. I am so grateful for you all. Those I know personally and those I know only through the amazing social media network. God bless you!! Sending you all a virtual hug :D

Happy day to all of you <3

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Annnd, We’ve Got Ourselves An Angler!

Introducing a GREAT Canadian (Torontonian) Angler, Miss Corinne (Missy) Lane!

In this photo here she catches her very first trout river fishing. Can this momma be any more proud??? Sooooo SUPER proud! (not to mention, SHE CAN EVEN CLEAN FISH) :D

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What’s so awesome here too is that, it was a DOUBLE HEADER! Her boyfriend Matthew catching a trout at the same time! So super cool.

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If you’re an angler, please check out Great Canadian Female Anglers and Fishbum Outfitters. Two amazing companies. They are also on facebook.

Will You Join Me?

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I got this photo from Facebook. It will be the second year that I will participate in this event.

As many of you know, I am a thriving Survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I have willingly done a lot of work to overcome the effects this abuse has had on my life. It has been one heck of a journey. One journey that I would not trade for anything. I have, and am becoming an incredible human being.

I am inviting you to please join me and many others in wearing purple Friday May 2nd in support and awareness of sexual abuse. This abuse must be brought out in the open and we are they only one’s who can help put a stop to this. It is horrific! Friends, no child, no man or woman should ever have to suffer at the hands of another. Sadly in society today, the exploitation of young human beings is accepted. No one stops to think of how they objectify and add to this abuse when they use children, men or women for their viewing pleasure or worse!

Please take a moment to think about this. If you have children, it could easily happen to them.

And friends, let us think of the men and women who are forced into providing services for people’s pleasures. The abuse and torture they endure.

Let us take a stand. Will you stand with me and let people know, we will not tolerate or add to this abuse!

From one Survivor to another, from one human being to another, let us come together and take a stand!

Lets get our purple on! You’ve got plenty of time to find some snazzy outfit ;)

Thanks for your support. Together we are stronger, God bless :D

Whatcha Doin? Whatcha Really Doin’?

I found these awesome pictures at the dollar store a few weeks ago and today, a friend of mine helped me clean up the playroom and hang them up. These pictures have awesome sayings on them which I love.

This one I’m sharing with you has been speaking to me in volumes!

Words are important and I love words, I love to talk and write. But let me tell you, actions no matter how subtle, speak so much louder. And you know, actions really determine the condition of our heart.

When the going gets tough, does the tough get you running? When you’re faced with issues you don’t like, do you “freak” out? What are your actions really like? Even after we have sworn up and down and all around, what actions follow that?

I’ll be honest, there are things and there are times that my actions have totally gone against the person I am trying so hard to become. The thing there is, the more I hang onto God and allow Him to show me and correct me, is where my integrity grows and my character is built on Him.

I’m not going to say too much more here. But I will say, do your actions show love? honor? protection? trust? Do they match your words? Because after all, our actions speak much louder than our words. And that is what we will gravitate to and believe in each other. And then there’s those times when we are resistant to changing. What causes that? Why is that? If our actions hurt relationships and others, why do we refuse to change the behaviour? Hmmmmm. Yes, it baffles me too. Mind you, I have my own thoughts on that. ;)

 Your actions show who you really are.

Lets take that in and take it into our lives. Take your actions and let them match your words. Especially for your family. They will live their lives on our actions. Let our actions start to match our words. And the only way in my opinion that will happen is when we learn to love God and ourselves so much that we WANT to change and honor and LOVE those around us.

God bless and may we work towards integrity and towards a loving, trusting, kind character.

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Be My Guest

Happy Wednesday to you!

I was asked to be a guest on another blog page today! I was so honored. I’m honored because this young lady is a young mom too. She is where I was at 21 years ago.

I’d like to share what I wrote with you.

First I’d like to start off by saying thank you Kayla for this opportunity to be a guest on your blog and share a little bit of my story. I’m really honored.

Hi there! My name is Christina. I’m a young mom to three amazing, awesome kids. Ok, one adult and two teens.  Now they weren’t always an adult and two teens. They started off as little wee babies.

Allow me to share a little bit of my story with you.

I’m a former teen mom.  At the fresh ripe age of 17, I gave birth to my son.  I had no idea what I was in for but I did know that I wanted to be the best mom I could ever be.  Life threw many challenges my way and by the grace of God I buckled up and held on tight. My son’s biological dad was not up for this challenge and chose, with my help, a different path of life. So here I was 17 years old with a child. As time went on, and many heartaches and challenges later, I met someone.

Long story short, we got together and at the wonderful age of 19, guess what??? Yup, I got pregnant again! In June of 1995, I gave birth to my second child. Oh, did I mention I got married too? Yes, I did. So here I was 19 years old with two children, a husband and a cat. Life was far from easy. We were on a roller coaster of crazy for a couple of years, trying to make things work. It was a hard life. I was very lonely and felt very sad. Although I felt so sad, I loved my kids. We had fun together. My two kids loved each other and we spent a lot of time together. If life was not challenging enough, guess what happened next? After my 21st birthday, I received a late birthday gift. Can you guess what it was? If you guessed another child, you are correct!

So here I was, 21 years old with three kids under the age of four. One magnificent boy and two beautiful girls.

Thinking back to my early days as a young mom, I can’t believe the things that we went through. I did a lot of growing up. A lot. As my kids grew, I grew. I changed. I embraced parenting.

Here are a few things that I did, and still do today, to help make me a better parent:

-          I chose to go with the flow of each day. By that I mean, if the dishes didn’t get done, they didn’t get done. If I had plans for the day and the day didn’t go with “my plans”, well so be it. I placed no expectation on the day. I went with where the kids were at and what they wanted to do (depending on what it was) haha.

-          TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!! Take a bath, do yoga, pray and meditate, exercise, whatever it is, BE SURE TO DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF IF NOT DAILY, WEEKLY!! I cannot stress this enough.

-          If you are with your partner, GO ON DATES! At least once a week or every two weeks, do something fun together, tell each other something good to one another daily. LOVE each other and HELP each other. HAPPY PARENTS ARE BETTER PARENTS ;)

-          PRAISE your child and say nice things about them. Especially when talking with other people. Your child needs to know you have their back and that they can count on you.

-          If you are a parent, BE A PARENT. Having a “single” life and being a parent is like an oxymoron to me.

-          Above all else, learn to love yourself and have FUN with your child. Laugh daily and hug often. Make choices that will better yourself and your family.

Parenting is a journey, it’s not a destination. Buckle up and enjoy the ride. You were chosen to have that child, YOU WERE CHOSEN. There’s a reason for it. Trust the process and learn to accept life on life’s terms with your child.

Today I am 38 years old. I am thriving and so are my kids. Two of my kids have graduated high school and are in University and college (I have an ear to ear grin as I type that). My son is actually going to be graduating from university this coming June. How’s that for teen mom statistics?? J My youngest daughter is finishing up high school. She’s got one more year to go. My relationships with each of my kids are amazing. Not only am I their mom, we are friends. I love them to bits! They saved my life. Today I can look back and thank God for this life He chose for me.

To all you parents out there, hang on through the tough times, they pass. Love yourself and be kind to you and your child, help each other out. Give each other a break. And here’s a very good question to ask yourself when the kids get “out of hand”, “Is this the hill I want to die on today?” Chances are it’s not. Hang on and take breaks when you need them. Live in the day you’re in. Forget tomorrow.

You are special. You are awesome. You are loved. Yup you are.

Please check out this awesome mommas blog at:

http://onelittlefootstepatatime.blogspot.ca/2014/02/controversial-parenting-topics.html?m=1

Have yourselves an incredible day!