Life Savers in Three Flavors

Well hello there! I pray all is well with you and you are having a fabulous day :D

I’m so excited to share my latest interview with you. This interview was done with such a wonderful young lady who works with an organization called Pregnancy Care Centre. This organization provides help, support, encouragement and spiritual guidance for young moms.

For all you moms out there check out; IAmNotAlone.ca for more info about this organization.

Here’s the interview, it’s a short two minute video. I hope you can take a peek ;)

Friends, I cannot thank you enough for all your support over the past while. God bless <3

The Real Deal

Happy day to you!

A couple of weeks ago I was invited to a Just Joy! Ministries Conference, No More Ordinary. I was thrilled! At first I thought, nahh, I “can’t” go, it’s in Buffalo and yadda, yadda, yadda. Well friends, long story short, I asked my friend Delia if she would like to go and she said, “sure!”.

April 4th, we packed up and drove to Buffalo.

Have you heard of Just Joy! Ministries? I hadn’t. As many of you who know me, know that I wake up before the birds everyday. One early morning (quite a few months ago), after Rob, my husband, left for work in the wee morning hours, he called to share with me that he has just listened to an amazing preacher on WDCX radio. He suggested I listen to her the next day

The next day came and I did not listen. After the show Rob called and asked if I had heard and I said nope.

Well, the next morning I listened. Her voice was so serene and pleasant. Gentle and loving. I thought, how lovely.

I tuned in the next day and the next and the next. I have been faithfully listening to Carol McLeod share her message on WDCX radio at 5:30am, for the past few months now. I’m so glad my husband told me about her (Thanks Rob! :D).

About a month or two ago, I felt God really convict my heart about sending Carol an email regarding my book. At first I said to God, “nahhh” But He said, “Yeaaaahhhhh”. Again I said, “nahhhh” and again He said, “YEEEAAHHHH” loud and clear.

So one early morning, I decided to send Carol an email. I started to write it and got side tracked. The email saved in my drafts for a couple of weeks.

After a few weeks had passed, God gently reminded me about getting in contact with Carol. I didn’t argue with God this time. This time I said, “Ok God”. Before I finished the email, I prayed and sent it off to Carol. To my absolute surprise, Carol responded within a couple of hours! I thought to myself, now this woman is very personable. Here she has a very BIG ministry and she took her time to personally respond to my email!

Carol accepted my recently published book, More of You less of me. I felt very honored and blessed that she did.

As weeks passed, Carol and I have kept in contact by email. As we kept in touch, Carol was so kind to invite me and a friend to her No More Ordinary conference in Buffalo. I am sooooo glad we went.

The Lord spoke to my heart that weekend and let me tell you friends, after Friday nights message, I was brave enough to go introduce myself personally to Carol.

Now, I gotta tell you, when I introduced myself to her, Carol welcomed me with opened arms and such a big, tight hug. As I introduced her to my friend Delia, she stood there with her arm around me and played with my hair!!! I was like, Lord, this woman has a heart for you! She is the real deal! Carol has a new book out entitled No More Ordinary. I got myself a signed copy :D

How beautiful it is to meet someone sharing Gods Word and goodness and be so personable and “down to earth”. That is God. And you know, the name of her ministry couldn’t be any more perfect; Just Joy! Ministries. You can see and hear the joy in Carol’s heart. That is the joy of The Lord. It’s amazing and so wonderful.

I am so grateful our paths have crossed. I don’t know what God is up to in regards to our lives crossing but I thank Him that they did.

Carol gave me the “ok” to post the picture Delia and I took with her.

A beautiful woman inside and out. That’s what God does my friends, He makes us beautiful from the inside out.

I highly recommend and encourage you to check out Just Joy! Ministries online or if you’re an early bird like me, tune in to WDCX radio at 5:30am to hear Carol’s message.

As always, thanks for reading and may God richly bless you!

My friend Delia is on the left, Carol in the middle and there I am on the right ;)

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I Got the Joy, Joy, Joy, Joy down in my Heart

Do you ever just have one of those days where you are reminded of the blessings around you? Those days where everything in your life seems just right? Those unexpected things that happen and things that get done without you even being a part of?

Yeah, today is one of those days for me. And I’ll be quite honest, I have many of these days. :)

I am reminded today how amazing my three kids are. I am reminded today that, how we are with our kids today, how we teach them, how we help them grow, how we nurture them, lasts a lifetime.

We had a busy day. We ran a few errands and did our groceries. We came home and left the groceries in the car while Rob and I ran out. When we came home, the groceries, (which for a family of five, plus two boyfriends, plus five cats, a dog and three fish, is quite a bit of groceries) were brought in from the car AND put away! All of it, put away and the fridge- cleaned out. My heart was overflowing in gratitude for the loving, kind, thoughtful hearts our kids have. I was also so thankful to God for giving them such a heart and for guiding me and Rob to teach them those good things. And for these kids to think to do as well. This is where the fruits of our labor shine through and today I’m feeling very blessed. Blessed that our kids who are 21, 18 and 16, call to let us know where they are, who they’re with, do household chores without being asked, respectful of curfew time and, my favorite; how they work their Sundays around for church and family time.

My suggestion to us parents, don’t wait for them to get to an age to start. It starts when they’re young, it starts now. Nurture, teach and above all, love. Love love love them. Teach with a patient and loving heart. Help them with their strengths and don’t expect them to “just know” to do things, make it clear, explain lovingly. And praise them. We can make our children bloom by how we care for them. Grow with them and learn together.

Today I am so grateful and I am receiving and taking in the blessings from God.

And now, it’s time for a hot cup of tea and I will indulge in some cookies ;)

Happy day to you and I thank you so very much for your time in reading my blog. Bless you always :)

Talk Back!

Good fabulous morning to you! :D

Wanted to pop in briefly and say; you know when you hear that little chattering in the back of your mind? you know that “voice” that says, “you can’t do it”, “this is impossible!”, “yeah right, you?”, “oh this is bad” etc… etc… etc… Yeah that voice. What do you say to it? Do you succumb to the “no no’s” of it? Do you “listen” to it? or worse, Do you believe it?????? :o 

I use to all the time. 

Not today people!! Nope, not me anymore. Oh yes of course it still tries to put me down or tell me things won’t work and even likes to “make up my own stories” on situations. Friends, today I talk back.  I say, shaaattttt up! I tell this little voice, Ha, that’s what you think! I say things like, “this may look “bad” now but I know God has it all figured out already”. I choose to speak life over myself and those around me today. What do I mean by talking life over myself? I mean I choose better words, I choose to not to be discouraged no matter what the situation is. I choose to recite Gods word over my issues. I choose to CHANGE THE WORDS. You see I have that choice and again I choose to change what I think and say today. 

When I wake up in the morning, “old” me starts with, what do I have to do today, what is going to happen???? The amazing thing is now I am better able to quickly “catch” those thoughts and turn them over to The Big Guy and I choose to start off with, “Today is a great day, I am expecting favor from God and Blessings to pour over me and my family today”. I choose to declare, “today is an awesome day”. 

This takes practice. This takes awareness of your thinking patterns and ways of perceiving life. 

Friends, start talking back. Start saying “No, I choose to see this or that in a better way”. Change those “old tapes” by replacing those words with good words. Give this to yourself. YOU ARE AN AMAZING PERSON! Talk back. Talk back with goodness. Tell yourself, You CAN. See yourself winning. See yourself succeeding, see those broken relationships mended, even if they are not yet. It all starts in our mind. See it, believe it, change it. You have this power. YOU DO, It’s been given to you!  

C’mon, who’s with me? Friends, I never suggest anything I haven’t tried and done before. We have been brought up conformed to this world, lets take “us” back and be transformed into the promises given to us by God. Let us renew our mind with good and wholesome words and thoughts.  Let today be the day you TALK BACK! 

Take a few seconds now to stop and say something good about yourself. Now say something good about a situation you’re in. Even if it doesn’t appear that way. Now, don’t say, “you don’t know my life”, TALK BACK!! Talk Life! Do it friends, try it just for today. 

It’s not easy, but I guarantee, It can be done. IT CAN!! 

So go on now, enjoy this blessing of a day you were given and TALK BACK! :D 

 

Merry Merry Christmas!!!

Hey there my dear friends, Merry, Merry Christmas and happy holidays to you! :)

I’ll keep it brief today and say this; From my awesome, amazing family to your awesome, amazing family, we wish you all the best for this holiday season and more than the best for the new year. God bless!

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How Grateful I Am For What I Did Not Endure.

Good day my friends.

Although I do not like to discuss my past abuse too often anymore, or get into any detail, I am writing this morning after reading through a few blog posts I follow and I am sitting here giving thanks to God for sparing me as He did from abuse that could have been far worse. I know it sounds weird to put forms of abuse on a “scale” however this morning I am beside myself giving thanks. I have heard and I have read from fellow survivors what they had encountered and for some reason today I am feeling it deep within my heart. I can say, with the sexual abuse I did endure, I was also spared from what could have been. It is said many times, God gives you only enough of what you can handle. Yes I believe that and when I speak with my fellow survivor friends, I am encouraged that I can continue to move forward and heal.

Well now, I guess what I want to say is, to all my amazing, beautiful, courageous, strong, survivor friends out there; First, I am so sorry for what you, we, went through. The pain, hurt and the loss we have endured.  God bless you all for sharing your story, for pushing forward, for choosing goodness for your life and for just being you!  I am truly blessed to know you. Some days suck and some days are beyond magical. This is our life, we choose how we will make the rest of it go. Today let us hold tight together and to God and choose to be the awesome people we are!

Sending you all (with your permission) a BIG hug :)

And to you my fellow readers, a BIG hug to you as well :D

God bless

P.S. – did you know that today is an amazing day???? Yup, yup it is ;)

God’s Comic Relief In Dark Times :)

Hey friends, hope you’re all doing better than good! I’m doing great! I’m at such a good place in my life right now and I will simply enjoy it :)

I’m, well, me and my family, are going to a friends place for dinner on Saturday evening. I’m so looking forward to this visit because who we’re visiting is a friend of mine. Now she’s not just a friend. We have been friends since I was nine years old. This past April marked twenty nine years of friendship that we have shared.

A few weeks ago I was at one of the groups I attend for my childhood sexual abuse and as I was listening and thinking, I realized that through all the crazy insanity in my life, God provided me with a friend who in turn provided me with some serious hysterical comic relief to the life I was living and enduring.

Please allow me to introduce you to this friend of mine. Her name is Anna. I call her Ann. Don’t know when that started but it kinda always did. Here’s a picture of the two of us, (she’s on the left) from my youngest daughters sweet sixteen birthday party.

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 Oh goodness me, there are so many stories I want to share with you about this part of my childhood that was quite pleasant. With her permission I have selected a few photos of her and I when we were younger. These photos never cease to make me crack up and shake my head saying, “what were we thinking?!” Nonetheless, these were some of the best times of my life. Ann and I use to dress up as old ladies and walk the streets, she with her awesome Italian speaking, would start talking to people walking by in Italian and they would look at her as if she was nuts! (Perhaps she was, hahahaha). We spent many of our summer vacations doing crazy things. There was a time we went out garden raiding. Tsk tsk tsk to both of us. I can be pretty sure that if our kids did such a thing today they’d be in some heavy trouble. Let me tell you friends, we enjoyed the best tomato cucumber salad ever made that year! Hey Ann, remember we were fighting with the cucumber????? Hahahahaha

Sadly I didn’t tell Ann what was happening to me and as we got older the effects of my abuse took me one way in life and her life took her another. I ended up pregnant and she was there for me the best she could. Heck, her name was the very first word my son said. What a day that was. Here was my son not even a year old playing quietly and we hear him say, aaannnnnnnaaaa. And again, aaannnnnnnaaaa. And once more again aaannnnnnnaaaa. We freaked out!! She smothered him with kisses and hugged him so tight. We laughed and laughed. It was so great.

As time went on we did go our separate ways temporarily but we always pick up from where we left off in our friendship.

After starting this blog and coming out with my abuse, I received such a beautiful email from Ann. It touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes. I will cherish her words to me forever.

Ann, thank you for providing relief for me from the reality of my life, for all those times we dressed up, acted crazy, crank called people, snuck out to ride the bus to the mall, for the garden raiding, and for the time at Uncle Jakes cabin- splashing my sister with water, hahaha, and for being my friend. For loving me quirks and all, for loving my kids  and for still being in my life. I am very grateful to God for you. Your friendship was Gods way of saving me through the horror I encountered. Thank you and I can’t wait til Saturday!! :D

So friends, please enjoy the photos (taken in the mid-eighties) of some of my very silly days with my friend. I sit here today chuckling to myself how God provided this comic relief to such a serious life. I don’t know if I would have made it had this not been part of my childhood.

                                       Ann 1  Ann 2  Ann 3

It’s Back To School Already?!

It’s back to school already!  Well for me, it’s one back to school today, one will start next Monday and the other in January.

It’s 2:00 in the afternoon and I have the house to myself except for my furry four legged friends :)

I haven’t blogged too much over this past summer and I got to thinking why and I realized, it’s been one heck of a busy summer! There have been many milestones reached for my kids. To start, my eldest daughter graduated high school and turned eighteen, my son got himself a summer job and my youngest turned sweet sixteen. These milestones called for parties and visits with old friends which was incredible. I also had the pleasure of having my niece, nephew and my best friends son over for the summer.  In between all that, we had a great visit from my out of town niece, had some home repairs done and to add to the mix, we had some family issues that needed tending too . All that pretty much took up these past two months.  With all that, we still managed to to find some family connection time which was great. We actually took off last weekend for a last minute camping trip.

All in all friends it has been a very full summer. It’s nice for me to get back to routine. This morning I surprised my youngest daughter with star shaped grilled cheese sandwiches for breakfast! Very cute. It’s so fun to do kiddie things like that for my growing kids. Regardless of their age, these little things brings smiles to their faces and they are enjoyed (makes me smile too) :)

With that, I’m looking forward to getting back to the writing and just a bit of an update on my book that is set to launch in September, the book cover is almost done and ready to go!! SOOOO EXCITED!!

Here are some pictures I’d like to share :D

moms iphone pics 2 546        moms iphone pics 2 705 Haha carrying those heavy apple chips :)

Bek 16  Grad Photo  Fam day out

 

And there’s some of my family pics to share with you. I tell ya, there’s not a day that goes by that I am not extremely grateful for what I have.

Ciao for now and as always, I thank you for reading and your continued support. Bless you! :D

Time Flies With A Few Broken Limbs

Good very hot hot hot day to you! (I guess depending where you are) ;)

I’m very excited for my daughter Corinne, she is graduating High School tomorrow! Today she has a grad luncheon and rehearsal ceremony for tomorrow evening.We went out yesterday and bought her this spectacular outfit and fantastic shoes, we really had a great time.  We spent most of yesterday together and last night was so fun. I laughed so much. We did our nails and the funniest part was we put on some old music and we sang together at the top of our lungs! She was laughing at me as I was singing because I was messing up the words and confusing her. We laughed a lot together. I gotta tell you, I often laugh with my kids, I mean not just a few giggles here and there, FULL blown laughter, you know the kind where your stomach feels like it’s going to break? Yup, that kind of laughter. It’s awesome.

I want to share a story with you. Corinne actually reminded me about this the other day. When she was twelve years old, we bought our house. During that summer  a friend of mine came to help me clean up the backyard and prepare some flower beds. It was a half hour before the stores were to close and I wanted to get some flowers in ASAP. I called on the kids to hop in the van and off we’d go. Well, I was so excited to get going, I was the first one in, in the drivers seat I plopped myself down and slammed the door as I got in. The car door swung open. I grabbed the handle and gave it another good slam. Flung open again. What the heck? I said, and tried one more time with all my might this time, to close the car door. SLAM! After the third time it hit me, Oooo I wonder if I caught someone’s hand in the door. (You see this happened before). I turned around slowly and peeked into the back seat. There is my poor daughter Corinne, crawling in the back, I said “Oh my gosh Missy (my nickname for her), did I catch your hand in the door?” through her tears she replies, “yes”. Me being the concerned mother I asked, “are you alright?”, trying to suck up her pain she says, “yes”. Ok great, she’s ok and we still have time to get to the store!! (crazy mum? yup).  I instructed her sister to get her ice and off to the store we went. Corinne was in pain. Long story short, she went a couple of days with a splint and ice before we took her to the hospital for an x-ray. Yes friends, it was broken. Her little hand was broken. Needless to say I had to explain what happened to her at the hospital and accept the looks I got from the nurses. This was not the end of her broken limbs, later that year she broke her toe playing soccer, where I then again, encouraged her to “shake it off” and keep going. (Yikes). A few months after that, she dislocated her shoulder at school, (thank God I was not around for that one). That year she was in the hospital about four times. The last time we went, the doctors reviewed her file and asked me, no in fact, they told me to wait out in the waiting area so they could speak to Corinne themselves. I’d be suspicious too if I was them. It all ended well. I was not charged, hahahahaha!!! :D

And now, my beautiful daughter Corinne who is 18 years old, works, is able to cook, clean, do laundry and still enjoys spending time with me,  will be graduating High School tomorrow. (Thanks be to God, with nothing dislocated or broken).  I’m sitting here writing this post with an ear to ear grin :D

I thank you for reading friends, I am very grateful  :)

 

Step Two… Complete :D

How do you spell relief? For me today it is spelled…  Mailing my second letter last night!!

Wow, what a feeling.

Friends, I never thought the day would come where I would have grown so much emotionally, mentally and spiritually to be able to share my story AND make attempts to confront my abusers. I cannot even begin to explain how I feel! Totally, totally awesome! I feel like running, skipping and jumping :D
There is this freedom in me. It’s like there’s this little girl inside me, so happy and free. She is free. I don’t even care for a reply back. This was something I needed to do to mend the broken in me. With all that is going on in my life right now, God continues to show me blessings and you know, no matter what we face or what we go through, there is always a piece of goodness in it for us. Always.

I want to thank all of you who read and my blog, follow me on twitter and Facebook, I do not know many of you but I have felt your support and encouragement through this step. Thank you for reaching out to me and thank you for reading. God bless you!  :D

Ciao for now my friends.

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