The In-Laws

As soon as someone starts to say “the In-Laws” many thoughts come to mind, I’ve often heard many speak of their in-laws in a manner that, well, lets just say, is not too edifying.

Today I am here to talk about my In-Laws.

I don’t even know where to begin. Twenty years ago I met their son whom I married less than a year of being together. A year after being married and two children later, I finally met my in-laws.

To be honest as I sit here and write, I don’t know why I have never mentioned them before. Not here on this blog nor in my book. You see, my in-laws are one of the most fantastic people I have ever met.

They did not know me nor did they know my son. I was a package deal when Rob, their son, met me. Me and my little awesome boy Alex who isn’t so little anymore ;)

Did my in-laws care about this? Did they reject this? Did they shun us? Did they have any inhibitions towards this marriage and having an adopted grandchild already???? One word. NO. You know what they did? They welcomed me and Alex like we were their own! They loved on us and accepted us as their family. Who were these people I did not know? My son’s biological family wanted no part of us and here were these in-laws of mine who without even knowing us from Adam, welcomed us with open arms into their heart and into their lives.

Bob and Doris is their name. I call them Mom and Dad :)

They gave my son the second set of grandparents he did not have. They gave me the best in-laws who love me and accepted me that I did not have nor ever experienced.

You know what’s even more awesome? I have a super amazing sister-in-law too! She is so funny and just so great! I gotta tell ya, she’s my favorite but shhhh, don’t tell anyone ;)

Last week we had an emergency trip to New Brunswick, things turned out better than we had anticipated heading out. This trip gave me a reminder that I am very blessed to have these people who are my in-laws in my life. They have added such comfort and much support over the years. I am very grateful that life turned the way it did. Had it not, I would have never met them let alone have them in my life.

Dad and Mom, I want to tell you, I love you both so much. I thank you for always loving us and always being a part of our life and even though we live in different provinces, you always make it seem as if we are so close. You’ve taken us “in” and I will forever be grateful to you both for that.

Roberta, you rock sister! Thank you for everything <3

So friends, that’s what I gotta say about my in-laws. Well, there’s much more but I’m already at 500 words. lol.

I’m sharing a collage of pics with you of my in-laws. There’s Rob and Roberta and her fiance Denis, Dad and Rob, Dad and Mom and there’s a pic of Dad with the girls.

In Law Pic

 

Five Minute Make-Over

It’s one blessed morning. I’m feeling grateful for the rain and wind today. I’ve lit some candles and I’m enjoying my time in Gods Word. Had it not been for Him, I would not be able to enjoy the peace, serenity, quietness and overall blessing of this time. He has changed me.  He has given me a new heart. He has given me a new life. God did this for me and He can, and will do it for you too. The catch here is you need to be willing to give up your ways of doing things. Your ways of living. What are your ways? Do you even know? Until you hold up your ways and compare them with Gods ways you will not know the difference. Most people see this as a jail sentence. It’s not. In fact, it’s freedom. Freedom. For those who know me deeply and personally can testify to the difference in me.  And I can boldly say, I live in freedom through Jesus Christ. When you decide, or get disturbed enough with yourself and life to make a change, we dig deep, our eyes are opened to ourself. We see life in a new way and want that peace and happiness in the midst of trouble. Friends, you can only get that through God. In this world you will find your pleasures and instant gratification of self indulgence but let me tell you, it is temporary. Once the hoopla fades, you’ll be out seeking something bigger and better and this cycle will continue and continue until you come to the end of yourself and surrender to Him. Jesus Himself says in John 15:5, “apart from Me you can do nothing”. I’ve had to learn that the hard way and that’s ok for me because what I have found in Him is no comparison to any thing that this world has to offer me. Im living, breathing, standing today because of Christ and nothing else.
My prayer for you today is that you get yourself a copy (if u haven’t yet) of Gods Word. Forget all you’ve heard about Him through religion and school and church and get to know Him for yourself. Start with just five minutes a day, I suggest you start in the book of John, and start reading. Just read and read. Don’t try to pick it apart or figure things out. Just read and let it soak in. I can guarantee you will feel, you will see, you will breathe, and you will live better.
Don’t just do it for one day, I challenge you for one month, ok how’s about two weeks? Take just five minutes and devote it to reading Gods Word. It WILL change your life.

That’s all I gotta say today. Thanks for reading. And my hopes is that you will take this challenge. Honestly, what do you have to loose?

Take It

I’m on holidays this week and I’m outside enjoying this hot summer weather although I just finished saying to my dog Oliver that I feel a chill. Go figure it’s just about 30 degrees Celsius and I feel a chill.
Anyway, I made my second cup of coffee and grabbed a new magazine I picked up from Wal Mart, actually I picked up three. You know they have the three magazines for ten bucks at the cash out? Yup gets me all the time. Well I’m sitting here and I’m in complete serenity and bliss. Why?
Because today I am able to take time for myself and enjoy it. Years ago I always thought myself unworthy to take time for myself and was brought up with the notion of that being selfish or a “bad” thing to do. Took some getting use to but let me tell ya, I surely enjoy it!
It makes me a better person and a better spouse a better parent and friend. We all need time to ourselves. That is one thing I really encourage mums I speak with to do, take a daily time out for yourself especially to you young mummies out there! We all need a refuel, a re-charge a time to connect with ourselves and God.
When we keep doing and doing and doing, we get frustrated and irritated and life becomes a burden and truthfully it’s our own fault. I was like that and I’ll be honest I can get into that tail spin of crazy at times and I need to stop. Like this beautiful morning I’m given. I’m out in my backyard with my coffee, magazine and my dog Oliver. The birds are happily singing and I’m taking in the blessing of being able to rest.
I challenge you to make a time each day just for you. Go on try it, it’s so beneficial for our health and serenity and out relationships :)

Happy day to you my beautiful friends <3

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It All Matters

Hey friends, wanted to pop in and say Hey and share this really awesome video my eldest daughter took and shared with me.

It got me thinking. Well I already knew but I reflected once again. Everything we teach our children, everything we say and do and how we respect ourselves, others and nature our children will learn from us.

It was really wonderful and warmed my heart that my daughter was able to stop and enjoy nature and record such a site and experience.

Hope you enjoy this short video and please take in the amazing sounds in the background.

Ciao for now :D

 

What If…

What If…

What if, just for today, you decided to accept life on life’s terms?
What if for today, you chose to say, “I’m going to learn something from this situation” instead of reacting in hysteria and calling up ten of your friends to complain?
What if, today you chose to look at the good in your life instead of what’s not going to your liking?
And just, what if, you complimented others instead of criticized, just for today?
What harm would that do?
What kind of a day could it be?
What kind of attitude would you have?
Change starts within us. In our heart. We must have a heart transformation so we can put out goodness with others and ourself.
Start the change. When you change and handle life differently than you have been, life changes, you change and others around you change.
Come on, give it a try today.
Ask yourself, “what if today, I take myself out of it (what I mean by that is, having things go the way you want it to suit yourself), and go with it?” What if right now you make the decision to act lovingly?
I encourage you to let this be your goal today. As you encounter the day, keep the “what if I choose to act this way (a way that uplifts and encourages) instead”, in your mind and ask yourself that question and put forth the action on it.
You have nothing to loose and a pretty serene day to gain.

Happy “what if” day to you!  :D

 

Life Savers in Three Flavors

Well hello there! I pray all is well with you and you are having a fabulous day :D

I’m so excited to share my latest interview with you. This interview was done with such a wonderful young lady who works with an organization called Pregnancy Care Centre. This organization provides help, support, encouragement and spiritual guidance for young moms.

For all you moms out there check out; IAmNotAlone.ca for more info about this organization.

Here’s the interview, it’s a short two minute video. I hope you can take a peek ;)

Friends, I cannot thank you enough for all your support over the past while. God bless <3

Through The Eyes of The Beholder

So I watched this pretty cool semi documentary that was posted to Facebook, about how women view themselves. To no surprise, all the women interviewed had pretty much the same answer. In a nut shell, they all disliked their bodies and saw themselves as “ugly”.

How sad.

I was there for many years. I was like those women for a very long part of my life and I’ll be honest, if I’m not connected to my Creator and taking care of myself, I can slip into the false beliefs once again.

How does this happen? Do you have any idea? Any idea at all? How is it that so many women around the world have a poor body image of themselves?? And what on earth is the why behind it?

I can only share from my own experience. I lived a life of comparing, trying to be those “perfect” women in magazines, trying to create some sort of perfect beauty to please everyone else. I went as far as to starve myself and when that wasn’t good enough, the internal self bashing with name calling and feeling worse for not being able to achieve the “standard”.

Society doesn’t help at all. Society puts there ridiculous standards on how a woman “should” look. We hang onto what society “feels” or think it “knows” what beauty is.

What is true beauty to you? Is it looks? Is it money? Is it fame? Is it the “perfect” body (even though there is no such thing)? Is it what you “own”? What does it mean to you?

I can confidently share with you my explanation of true beauty. It took me many years to get where I am today and it took a lot of re-programming my mind and thinking. Not only about myself but about the world outside of me.

I must make something very clear. This was not something I was able to do on my own. Being on my own and living for this world and experiencing situations that destroyed the thoughts of myself was what helped get me to the pit of ugliness. Ha! Funny you know! Having such a poor self image and saying mean and nasty things about myself is what is ugly! Isn’t that crazy? Here we women go around comparing ourselves to other women, putting ourselves in competition with them trying to be “better” more beautiful, more sexy and all the while becoming uglier with our attitude and hatred by the minute! Goodness me! And not to mention how this has a ripple effect and reeks havoc in our relationships! Wow, the enemy of this world doesn’t have to work very hard to get us feeling badly about ourselves does he?

Friends, ladies, gentlemen, lets get to the raw beauty we posses. We need to know WHO we are and WHOSE we are! Until I came into the beauty with God, I was no where near being beautiful or loving myself. Beauty for me is having a clean open heart. It is being able to love those who are unlovable, It is respect for one’s self and it is the care and gentleness one is able to extend to one’s self. Beauty is looking at yourself and saying, “you are amazing”, It’s being able to actually look at one’s self in the mirror and like what you see. I was unable to look at myself in the mirror for many years. I hated, I loathed the person starring back at me. Today by God’s grace I am able to linger and look at myself in the eyes with a heart of love and have gratitude for who I am. For what I see.

I want to encourage you today, start changing the old tapes in your mind. It’s hard but it’s doable, I am proof of that! Do it today, look at yourself and say something nice. Stop comparing and holding yourself to society’s standard and get back to reality and get back to God who has created such a beautiful being. YOU!

I can go on and on about this and I have, hehe, But I will leave you with this;

Charm can fool you and beauty will trick you, but a woman (or man (I’m throwing that bit in)) who respects the Lord shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30

This scripture helped me change my views on myself.  Learn it, know it. You are so much more than what society “thinks” or thinks they “know”. Let us stand together and take ourselves back! We are worth it and we are soooo much more!

Amen! :D