So I watched this pretty cool semi documentary that was posted to Facebook, about how women view themselves. To no surprise, all the women interviewed had pretty much the same answer. In a nut shell, they all disliked their bodies and saw themselves as “ugly”.
I was there for many years. I was like those women for a very long part of my life and I’ll be honest, if I’m not connected to my Creator and taking care of myself, I can slip into the false beliefs once again.
How does this happen? Do you have any idea? Any idea at all? How is it that so many women around the world have a poor body image of themselves?? And what on earth is the why behind it?
I can only share from my own experience. I lived a life of comparing, trying to be those “perfect” women in magazines, trying to create some sort of perfect beauty to please everyone else. I went as far as to starve myself and when that wasn’t good enough, the internal self bashing with name calling and feeling worse for not being able to achieve the “standard”.
Society doesn’t help at all. Society puts there ridiculous standards on how a woman “should” look. We hang onto what society “feels” or think it “knows” what beauty is.
What is true beauty to you? Is it looks? Is it money? Is it fame? Is it the “perfect” body (even though there is no such thing)? Is it what you “own”? What does it mean to you?
I can confidently share with you my explanation of true beauty. It took me many years to get where I am today and it took a lot of re-programming my mind and thinking. Not only about myself but about the world outside of me.
I must make something very clear. This was not something I was able to do on my own. Being on my own and living for this world and experiencing situations that destroyed the thoughts of myself was what helped get me to the pit of ugliness. Ha! Funny you know! Having such a poor self image and saying mean and nasty things about myself is what is ugly! Isn’t that crazy? Here we women go around comparing ourselves to other women, putting ourselves in competition with them trying to be “better” more beautiful, more sexy and all the while becoming uglier with our attitude and hatred by the minute! Goodness me! And not to mention how this has a ripple effect and reeks havoc in our relationships! Wow, the enemy of this world doesn’t have to work very hard to get us feeling badly about ourselves does he?
Friends, ladies, gentlemen, lets get to the raw beauty we posses. We need to know WHO we are and WHOSE we are! Until I came into the beauty with God, I was no where near being beautiful or loving myself. Beauty for me is having a clean open heart. It is being able to love those who are unlovable, It is respect for one’s self and it is the care and gentleness one is able to extend to one’s self. Beauty is looking at yourself and saying, “you are amazing”, It’s being able to actually look at one’s self in the mirror and like what you see. I was unable to look at myself in the mirror for many years. I hated, I loathed the person starring back at me. Today by God’s grace I am able to linger and look at myself in the eyes with a heart of love and have gratitude for who I am. For what I see.
I want to encourage you today, start changing the old tapes in your mind. It’s hard but it’s doable, I am proof of that! Do it today, look at yourself and say something nice. Stop comparing and holding yourself to society’s standard and get back to reality and get back to God who has created such a beautiful being. YOU!
I can go on and on about this and I have, hehe, But I will leave you with this;
Charm can fool you and beauty will trick you, but a woman (or man (I’m throwing that bit in)) who respects the Lord shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30
This scripture helped me change my views on myself. Learn it, know it. You are so much more than what society “thinks” or thinks they “know”. Let us stand together and take ourselves back! We are worth it and we are soooo much more!