It All Matters

Hey friends, wanted to pop in and say Hey and share this really awesome video my eldest daughter took and shared with me.

It got me thinking. Well I already knew but I reflected once again. Everything we teach our children, everything we say and do and how we respect ourselves, others and nature our children will learn from us.

It was really wonderful and warmed my heart that my daughter was able to stop and enjoy nature and record such a site and experience.

Hope you enjoy this short video and please take in the amazing sounds in the background.

Ciao for now :D

 

The First

Hello hello friends. It’s been awhile since I sat and blogged.  So much going on with the school year coming to an end.

With that said, I am soooo beyond thrilled to share some really exciting, serious news with you!!! Ok, so my son, whom I had in my teen years, is now 21 years old. He has just recently completed his last year of University and graduates this year.  How proud is this mom? Proud beyond belief!

If graduating from University was not enough, God decides to throw in Alex graduating with a high achievement record!

I’m going to post the letter he received from the Dean of the University (I asked permission to post ;)).

So here it is;

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Oh goodness me, I am so happy for him. This guy of mine has worked so hard. He kept his focus and stayed on track. What a victory.

This Friday will be the ceremony. It will take the Hand of God to keep me in my seat. When I hear his name I’m going to want to jump up and down and holler “woooohooooo, that’s my boy”!!! Hahahaha, could you imagine my son if Idid that? hahahaha. Mind you, he’d probably expect it. ;)

I will definitely post pictures and a possible video.

Well, gotta run. Ciao for now and God bless <3

Life Savers in Three Flavors

Well hello there! I pray all is well with you and you are having a fabulous day :D

I’m so excited to share my latest interview with you. This interview was done with such a wonderful young lady who works with an organization called Pregnancy Care Centre. This organization provides help, support, encouragement and spiritual guidance for young moms.

For all you moms out there check out; IAmNotAlone.ca for more info about this organization.

Here’s the interview, it’s a short two minute video. I hope you can take a peek ;)

Friends, I cannot thank you enough for all your support over the past while. God bless <3

Through The Eyes of The Beholder

So I watched this pretty cool semi documentary that was posted to Facebook, about how women view themselves. To no surprise, all the women interviewed had pretty much the same answer. In a nut shell, they all disliked their bodies and saw themselves as “ugly”.

How sad.

I was there for many years. I was like those women for a very long part of my life and I’ll be honest, if I’m not connected to my Creator and taking care of myself, I can slip into the false beliefs once again.

How does this happen? Do you have any idea? Any idea at all? How is it that so many women around the world have a poor body image of themselves?? And what on earth is the why behind it?

I can only share from my own experience. I lived a life of comparing, trying to be those “perfect” women in magazines, trying to create some sort of perfect beauty to please everyone else. I went as far as to starve myself and when that wasn’t good enough, the internal self bashing with name calling and feeling worse for not being able to achieve the “standard”.

Society doesn’t help at all. Society puts there ridiculous standards on how a woman “should” look. We hang onto what society “feels” or think it “knows” what beauty is.

What is true beauty to you? Is it looks? Is it money? Is it fame? Is it the “perfect” body (even though there is no such thing)? Is it what you “own”? What does it mean to you?

I can confidently share with you my explanation of true beauty. It took me many years to get where I am today and it took a lot of re-programming my mind and thinking. Not only about myself but about the world outside of me.

I must make something very clear. This was not something I was able to do on my own. Being on my own and living for this world and experiencing situations that destroyed the thoughts of myself was what helped get me to the pit of ugliness. Ha! Funny you know! Having such a poor self image and saying mean and nasty things about myself is what is ugly! Isn’t that crazy? Here we women go around comparing ourselves to other women, putting ourselves in competition with them trying to be “better” more beautiful, more sexy and all the while becoming uglier with our attitude and hatred by the minute! Goodness me! And not to mention how this has a ripple effect and reeks havoc in our relationships! Wow, the enemy of this world doesn’t have to work very hard to get us feeling badly about ourselves does he?

Friends, ladies, gentlemen, lets get to the raw beauty we posses. We need to know WHO we are and WHOSE we are! Until I came into the beauty with God, I was no where near being beautiful or loving myself. Beauty for me is having a clean open heart. It is being able to love those who are unlovable, It is respect for one’s self and it is the care and gentleness one is able to extend to one’s self. Beauty is looking at yourself and saying, “you are amazing”, It’s being able to actually look at one’s self in the mirror and like what you see. I was unable to look at myself in the mirror for many years. I hated, I loathed the person starring back at me. Today by God’s grace I am able to linger and look at myself in the eyes with a heart of love and have gratitude for who I am. For what I see.

I want to encourage you today, start changing the old tapes in your mind. It’s hard but it’s doable, I am proof of that! Do it today, look at yourself and say something nice. Stop comparing and holding yourself to society’s standard and get back to reality and get back to God who has created such a beautiful being. YOU!

I can go on and on about this and I have, hehe, But I will leave you with this;

Charm can fool you and beauty will trick you, but a woman (or man (I’m throwing that bit in)) who respects the Lord shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30

This scripture helped me change my views on myself.  Learn it, know it. You are so much more than what society “thinks” or thinks they “know”. Let us stand together and take ourselves back! We are worth it and we are soooo much more!

Amen! :D

Whatcha Doin? Whatcha Really Doin’?

I found these awesome pictures at the dollar store a few weeks ago and today, a friend of mine helped me clean up the playroom and hang them up. These pictures have awesome sayings on them which I love.

This one I’m sharing with you has been speaking to me in volumes!

Words are important and I love words, I love to talk and write. But let me tell you, actions no matter how subtle, speak so much louder. And you know, actions really determine the condition of our heart.

When the going gets tough, does the tough get you running? When you’re faced with issues you don’t like, do you “freak” out? What are your actions really like? Even after we have sworn up and down and all around, what actions follow that?

I’ll be honest, there are things and there are times that my actions have totally gone against the person I am trying so hard to become. The thing there is, the more I hang onto God and allow Him to show me and correct me, is where my integrity grows and my character is built on Him.

I’m not going to say too much more here. But I will say, do your actions show love? honor? protection? trust? Do they match your words? Because after all, our actions speak much louder than our words. And that is what we will gravitate to and believe in each other. And then there’s those times when we are resistant to changing. What causes that? Why is that? If our actions hurt relationships and others, why do we refuse to change the behaviour? Hmmmmm. Yes, it baffles me too. Mind you, I have my own thoughts on that. ;)

 Your actions show who you really are.

Lets take that in and take it into our lives. Take your actions and let them match your words. Especially for your family. They will live their lives on our actions. Let our actions start to match our words. And the only way in my opinion that will happen is when we learn to love God and ourselves so much that we WANT to change and honor and LOVE those around us.

God bless and may we work towards integrity and towards a loving, trusting, kind character.

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Be My Guest

Happy Wednesday to you!

I was asked to be a guest on another blog page today! I was so honored. I’m honored because this young lady is a young mom too. She is where I was at 21 years ago.

I’d like to share what I wrote with you.

First I’d like to start off by saying thank you Kayla for this opportunity to be a guest on your blog and share a little bit of my story. I’m really honored.

Hi there! My name is Christina. I’m a young mom to three amazing, awesome kids. Ok, one adult and two teens.  Now they weren’t always an adult and two teens. They started off as little wee babies.

Allow me to share a little bit of my story with you.

I’m a former teen mom.  At the fresh ripe age of 17, I gave birth to my son.  I had no idea what I was in for but I did know that I wanted to be the best mom I could ever be.  Life threw many challenges my way and by the grace of God I buckled up and held on tight. My son’s biological dad was not up for this challenge and chose, with my help, a different path of life. So here I was 17 years old with a child. As time went on, and many heartaches and challenges later, I met someone.

Long story short, we got together and at the wonderful age of 19, guess what??? Yup, I got pregnant again! In June of 1995, I gave birth to my second child. Oh, did I mention I got married too? Yes, I did. So here I was 19 years old with two children, a husband and a cat. Life was far from easy. We were on a roller coaster of crazy for a couple of years, trying to make things work. It was a hard life. I was very lonely and felt very sad. Although I felt so sad, I loved my kids. We had fun together. My two kids loved each other and we spent a lot of time together. If life was not challenging enough, guess what happened next? After my 21st birthday, I received a late birthday gift. Can you guess what it was? If you guessed another child, you are correct!

So here I was, 21 years old with three kids under the age of four. One magnificent boy and two beautiful girls.

Thinking back to my early days as a young mom, I can’t believe the things that we went through. I did a lot of growing up. A lot. As my kids grew, I grew. I changed. I embraced parenting.

Here are a few things that I did, and still do today, to help make me a better parent:

-          I chose to go with the flow of each day. By that I mean, if the dishes didn’t get done, they didn’t get done. If I had plans for the day and the day didn’t go with “my plans”, well so be it. I placed no expectation on the day. I went with where the kids were at and what they wanted to do (depending on what it was) haha.

-          TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!! Take a bath, do yoga, pray and meditate, exercise, whatever it is, BE SURE TO DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF IF NOT DAILY, WEEKLY!! I cannot stress this enough.

-          If you are with your partner, GO ON DATES! At least once a week or every two weeks, do something fun together, tell each other something good to one another daily. LOVE each other and HELP each other. HAPPY PARENTS ARE BETTER PARENTS ;)

-          PRAISE your child and say nice things about them. Especially when talking with other people. Your child needs to know you have their back and that they can count on you.

-          If you are a parent, BE A PARENT. Having a “single” life and being a parent is like an oxymoron to me.

-          Above all else, learn to love yourself and have FUN with your child. Laugh daily and hug often. Make choices that will better yourself and your family.

Parenting is a journey, it’s not a destination. Buckle up and enjoy the ride. You were chosen to have that child, YOU WERE CHOSEN. There’s a reason for it. Trust the process and learn to accept life on life’s terms with your child.

Today I am 38 years old. I am thriving and so are my kids. Two of my kids have graduated high school and are in University and college (I have an ear to ear grin as I type that). My son is actually going to be graduating from university this coming June. How’s that for teen mom statistics?? J My youngest daughter is finishing up high school. She’s got one more year to go. My relationships with each of my kids are amazing. Not only am I their mom, we are friends. I love them to bits! They saved my life. Today I can look back and thank God for this life He chose for me.

To all you parents out there, hang on through the tough times, they pass. Love yourself and be kind to you and your child, help each other out. Give each other a break. And here’s a very good question to ask yourself when the kids get “out of hand”, “Is this the hill I want to die on today?” Chances are it’s not. Hang on and take breaks when you need them. Live in the day you’re in. Forget tomorrow.

You are special. You are awesome. You are loved. Yup you are.

Please check out this awesome mommas blog at:

http://onelittlefootstepatatime.blogspot.ca/2014/02/controversial-parenting-topics.html?m=1

Have yourselves an incredible day!

I Got the Joy, Joy, Joy, Joy down in my Heart

Do you ever just have one of those days where you are reminded of the blessings around you? Those days where everything in your life seems just right? Those unexpected things that happen and things that get done without you even being a part of?

Yeah, today is one of those days for me. And I’ll be quite honest, I have many of these days. :)

I am reminded today how amazing my three kids are. I am reminded today that, how we are with our kids today, how we teach them, how we help them grow, how we nurture them, lasts a lifetime.

We had a busy day. We ran a few errands and did our groceries. We came home and left the groceries in the car while Rob and I ran out. When we came home, the groceries, (which for a family of five, plus two boyfriends, plus five cats, a dog and three fish, is quite a bit of groceries) were brought in from the car AND put away! All of it, put away and the fridge- cleaned out. My heart was overflowing in gratitude for the loving, kind, thoughtful hearts our kids have. I was also so thankful to God for giving them such a heart and for guiding me and Rob to teach them those good things. And for these kids to think to do as well. This is where the fruits of our labor shine through and today I’m feeling very blessed. Blessed that our kids who are 21, 18 and 16, call to let us know where they are, who they’re with, do household chores without being asked, respectful of curfew time and, my favorite; how they work their Sundays around for church and family time.

My suggestion to us parents, don’t wait for them to get to an age to start. It starts when they’re young, it starts now. Nurture, teach and above all, love. Love love love them. Teach with a patient and loving heart. Help them with their strengths and don’t expect them to “just know” to do things, make it clear, explain lovingly. And praise them. We can make our children bloom by how we care for them. Grow with them and learn together.

Today I am so grateful and I am receiving and taking in the blessings from God.

And now, it’s time for a hot cup of tea and I will indulge in some cookies ;)

Happy day to you and I thank you so very much for your time in reading my blog. Bless you always :)

Today’s Post

Alrighty, here’s another video by moi ;) hehe

I just “love” the cover frame that was chosen. haha

I hope your day is beyond magical for you!

Enjoy friends :)

Teen Mom

I had a great conversation with a teen mom today. It was the highlight of my day. I was very grateful for the trust of her reaching out and sharing some thoughts with me. I was amazed at how I was able to relate to her feelings and to what she was saying. Although it’s been quite a few years for me as a parent, I can remember fondly my younger years.

I was so impressed at her willingness to finish school and move on to get her career on the go. People, let me tell you, it’s one thing when you plan for a baby and expect your life to change but for us Teen Moms who get pregnant and decide to take care of our responsibility and raise our child, life takes on a whole new challenge and meaning. For a teenager, life is difficult enough, throw a baby in there and well, we’ve got some heavy heavy challenges. And nooo, we don’t mean to get pregnant, it’s not something we dream up as little girls, no, this happens by accident.  Hmmm, is it an accident or is it God’s way of interceding on our behalf? I prefer to see it the latter way.  :)

Anyways, I was reminded about how difficult it is for young teen moms to juggle growing up really fast and being the best mom they can be. We loose out on many things, friends being one of them, time for ourselves and time with our significant other as well. Not much different for a grown up parent is it?

As I listened to this amazing young lady, it occurred to me how important it is for parents to take time for themselves. As I wrote in a previous post, happy babies/children have happy parents, this could not be any more truer for teen moms and their babies.  Just because we had a child at an early age does not mean we need to “punished” by not being “allowed” to finish school or spend time with our friends or have a day off. No, if anything, teen parents NEED this. All parents need this (in my opinion).

When I was a young mom, this was something I did not have. I didn’t finish school because I was told I had a baby and I need to look after it now, fair enough. I did not have someone who offered to babysit so I can have a free moment without holding it against me afterwards. I lost many friends, my husband and I fought our way through the years, sadly and most importantly, I lost myself. I shared with this young lady how I managed to get through those challenging years. What I did was, I use to rise at 4:30am to enjoy some alone time. This alone time was shared with God. It consisted of reading and meditating and just being with me.

I guess what I want to say in this post is, friends, if you know anyone, especially a young mom or even a new mom, please give her a break. Offer to babysit. Offer to run a few errands, offer to take the child for the night. And please don’t ruin the gesture by holding it against them or by laying a guilt trip on them afterwards. When Teens decide to keep their babies, they are saying yes to life. They are saying yes I will sacrifice and be willing to do what it takes to raise my baby. Lets help them out. We all make mistakes. It doesn’t matter what age we are. What matters is how we treat others because of that. Let us as a society help and edify one another, lift each other up and offer grace and support. After all, when we say we are a community, community means unity, unity means we work together to help one another be stronger.

I don’t know about you, but when I see a teen mom fighting to be the best they can be, I am overjoyed and so amazed at the determination and perseverance that, in my heart I feel like the child of that teen mom is going to be a great person and beat societies odds (which I think are crap, pardon my language). :)